Christian Living, Culture, Life, spirituality, Thoughts, Work

the big picture

So, I’m sure many of you are aware of the decision Target’s corporate office made to allow transgender into whichever restroom they identify with. I’m sure many of you are either livid or don’t care – or maybe if you’re like me, you have mixed feelings.

I don’t think that the decision was right. I’ll start by saying that. I think that it’s opening up a lot of bad doors for perverts to take advantage of. Because, sadly, we do live in a world where someone will fake being transgender just to get inside a restroom to spy on someone. That’s our reality. And Target’s decision just opened the door for that.


BUT – and this is where things get sticky – I just can’t support a Target boycott. I’ve had to take a step back and examine this situation in the grand scheme of things. Yes, I’m biased. I work at Target. However, I’m not emotionally attached to the company, so I’m not that biased.

It does make me angry, though, when I hear of all these people trying to destroy Target. If enough people boycott it, Target could very well go bankrupt. And the reality is that the head honchos at the corporate offices, they’re lives are not going to be affected. They’ll still leave the company with a decent amount of money in their back pockets. People like me, though? People who make our living as cashiers or cafe employees or sales floor team members or guest services advisers? Thousands of people like me will be out of a job – we’ll be collateral damage in this endless, bloody social “revolution” that’s going nowhere.

Think for a moment about how many fellow believers – brothers and sisters in Christ – work at Target. How many young Christian men and women like myself have to work 40 hours a week at Target just to pay for their seminary bills? And you want to destroy that?

Yes, I get it. You’re taking a stand. You’re fighting the power. And I’m sure it feels good to be a part of something great and potentially “revolutionary.” But you’re not looking at the big picture.

Let me tell you why Target is important to me. I’ll bullet-point it for you:

  • Without Target, I would not just be a poor, tired college student – I’d be poor, tired, and unemployed and broke.
  • Without Target’s employment, I would not be able to afford my college classes, which are helping me achieve my ministerial license.
  • Without Target, I wouldn’t have met the amazing people I’ve met. God’s placed me in an incredible place of ministry there and he’s placed such a burden on my heart for my fellow workers who don’t yet know the joy of Jesus and sometimes the only time I have to show them who He is is when I’m working with them. Without Target, that mission field is gone.

It’s three simple points, but they’re big ones.

Some of you may be stuck on where I said, “bloody social revolution that’s going nowhere.” Let me explain.

When it comes to things like homosexuality, moral decline, tolerance, etc…. the only revolution that will change things is a spiritual revolution. Taking a moral stand is good, of course, but there’s a line that we have to be careful not to cross; that line falls between separation (we are not of this world) and segregation (we have no connection to the world).

Boycotting Target, you destroy the opportunity to minister to the beautiful people working there or shopping there – and, yes, those beautiful people exist. Boycotting Target, you could potentially destroy lives and families if Target were to go bankrupt. Boycotting Target, you could make yourself look even worse in the eyes of the world, the people we’re called to win for the Kingdom. Boycotting Target, you’re forgetting the focus of our faith. It isn’t to boycott every company that flaunts its liberal values. (If that were the case, I’d expect you to boycott Starbucks, Amazon, and a plethora of other companies.) The focus of our faith is found in Jesus’ command to, “Go into all the world and preach.”

That being said, do what you need to do. If you’re a woman and you don’t feel comfortable using the Target restrooms, don’t. You have the right to the protection of your privacy and well being. But ask yourself if boycotting Target, in the long run, is worth it. If the collateral damage is worth it. If the consequences are worth it.

“Respect what is right in the sight of all men. And if possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.” – Romans 12:17-18

Christian Living, Church Life, Culture, Life

i’m a christian and…

I’m sure that by now many of you have seen or at least heard of this viral BuzzFeed video entitled “I’m A Christian, but I’m Not…” If not, go take a peek and then come back to this post.

The video starts with a group of millennials declaring, “I’m a Christian, but…:

  • I’m not homophobic
  • I’m not perfect
  • I’m not close-minded
  • I’m not un-accepting
  • I’m not uneducated
  • I’m not judgmental
  • I’m not conservative
  • I’m not ignorant
  • I don’t place myself on a pedestal
  • I don’t have all the answers

They go on to say, rather, “I’m a Christian, and…:

  • I am accepting
  • I am queer
  • I am gay
  • I am a feminist
  • I’m not afraid to talk about sex
  • I love to play me some Beyonce
  • I love wine
  • I do believe in monogamy before sex, but I’ll give you sex advice if you need it
  • and more…


Honestly, props to BuzzFeed for attempting to denounce some of the common misconceptions about Christianity. However, the further managed to create even more misconceptions about what it means to be a Christian. Such as:

  • It’s okay to be gay/queer and Christian.

Those who know me intimately know that I came out of homosexual bondage. As a result, I have a deeper understanding of what it’s like to experience homosexual desire in light of my Christianity. So I will say this: some people really are born gay. And that in and of itself is okay. Because in the same way that heterosexuals can operate in an unhealthy desire for the opposite sex, people can operate in an unhealthy desire for the same sex. The fact of the matter is this: the flesh wants what it wants. And Satan will tempt you with what is most desirable to you.

Fortunately we serve a supremely intelligent God who knew about the lusts of the flesh. And He knew that in order to serve Him, we would have to “die to ourselves daily.” This is how I came to deliverance from this lifestyle. First, I made the decision that I would serve God no matter the cost. But I had to follow through on that commitment. I had to discipline my flesh daily.

So, yes, a Christian can be born with a tendency toward impure homosexual desire. But through the empowerment of Holy Spirit it becomes possible to bring the flesh under control in all manners of impurity. (Additional note: simply being drawn to the same sex does not constitute a sin. Homosexual desire does not become a sin until it becomes homosexual behavior.)

  • Christians should be accepting and open-minded.

On the contrary, nowhere in the Bible are we told to accept the sins of others. In fact, the New Testament (since we are a New Testament Church) is filled with instructions for holiness and separation. Holiness in itself means to “be set apart.”

So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you.” – Colossians 3:5

“They are not of the world, even as I am not of it.” – John 17:16

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2

“Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord. “And do not touch what is unclean; and I will welcome you. – 2 Corinthians 6:17

“Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.” – 1 Corinthians 15:33

In fact, the Scriptures takes it a step further and tells us that we are blessed when we are hated for our faith. We are also told to consider it a joy to share in the sufferings of Christ that will come because we do not tolerate, accept, embrace, or turn a blind eye to sin. (Luke 6:22; James 1:2)

The fact is, it is possible to love the sinner while completely abhorring the sin. But we must start by abhorring our own sin. And in the contemporary world today, our gravest offense is complacency toward sin in the Church and in the world.

These are perhaps the two biggest faults I see in BuzzFeed’s video. Now, I would like to counter BuzzFeed’s “statement of faith” with my own understanding of what the Christian life should look like as discovered in the Bible.

I’m a Christian and…

  • I don’t drink alcohol. I believe that while it may not be a sin, it is detrimental to the physical and spiritual health of a believer and is contrary to the command to treat our bodies as temples of Holy Spirit.
  • I believe in traditional marriage as a spiritual institution meant to emulate the marriage covenant between Jesus Christ and His Body, the Church. Any other form of “marriage” is an inauthentic replica.
  • I am educated. (I am attending university and will be receiving my minister’s license in the next two years.)
  • I do not condone, accept, or turn a blind eye to sin.
  • I do listen to secular music. The term “secular” simply means “having no religious affiliation”. “Secular” objects carry with them a neutrality that can be used for either good or evil depending on how they are used.
  • I am a feminist. But not in the modern sense of the word.
  • I am not perfect. I struggle just like everybody else. The difference is that I have accepted the gift of salvation and I am “a new creation.” I live in a constant redemptive state of falling and rising again to meet the day.
  • I am pro-life. I do not condone birth control, abortion, hunting for sport, or murder.
  • I am judgmental. In that all human beings judge other human beings. It is impossible to avoid making assumptions about another person based on one’s observations of said person.

So there you have it; some food for thought. As always, I would love to hear your thoughts on BuzzFeed’s video as well as this post in the comments below. 🙂